Big Me, Little You, Glass Houses, Kettles, and the Bible

I want to let you in on a little secret:

Your shit does stink.

Oh yes, it truly does.  But, don’t feel singled out though, because mine does too.  In fact, all of ours does from time to time… or maybe all the time, depending on how much of a judgmental and vocal S.O.B. you are.

What am I driving at here?  Well, for one, I am driving at how carelessly people judge others without ever taken even a moments pause to examine themselves.

We all do it.  We judge everyone… from those closest to us, to those we will likely never encounter in real life…  We do it all the time, and most of the time don’t even realize we are doing it.

We all know better.  How many times have we been reminded not to do it?  How many times have others called us out?

Chalk it up to “people in glass houses should not be throwing stones.” Refer to it as the “pot calling the kettle black.” Or go straight biblical with it and declare, “Let he without sin cast the first stone.”

However you choose to look at it, my simple suggestion is as follows:

Never hold others to a higher standard than you hold yourself.  

And, after that, if you still feel you are justified in your view of someone, make sure you give them positive criticism (in which you offer a suggestion for a solution on how they might improve to meet and exceed the standard you feel they have not met). 

Pretty simple to understand, pretty hard (for a lot of us, apparently) to live by. Perhaps, taking a moment to reflect and looking inward before starting to wave the accusation finger around is a better tact than aggressively judging someone as “bad” or “wrong” and then simply dismissing them?

At the end of the day, people see right through the “big me, little you” bravado…

And nobody wears that style of hypocrisy well.  Not you, not me, not anyone.